By Annette Fiscelli
I catch a lot of heat for my compliments, or, should I say, the lack thereof.
Sure, I might tell you that I like your shirt, or that your butt looks amazing these days (professionally speaking).
But sometimes I give compliments that go unheard. Or at least unacknowledged for what they are.
Let me explain.
Last Thursday in class I said, “Beth, you have terrific lateral movements.”
This is high praise indeed, and for a moment I was surprised at her reaction. I expected a “thank you,” and when what I got was a kind of “okay, crazy lady” smile in return, I realized that she didn’t know what a big deal it was.
The concepts I teach in my classes and the movement patterns I look for are not easy. Beth works hard on her lateral movements. If she knew how great her form was and how much admiration I had for her right then, she would have said, “You are right, and I am totally awesome! I’ve been working so hard on this stuff and I’m so glad you noticed!”
I will notice a client walking down the street from afar not because I have great eyesight, but because I know their gait pattern like the back of my hand. I will fist pump for you every time you find your glute in that one exercise that has always been stubborn for you.
I don’t hand out compliments for the sake of making nice. Anyone who knows me knows that, for sure. But when I hand one out and call you out on it, man, I am excited for you.
In fact, you might not even notice it when I compliment you, when I look you in the eye and say, with the utmost, heartfelt sincerity, “That is so awesome that you are loading your left glute.”
But damn, I mean it. I could get teary-eyed just thinking about it. It’s hard to find those butt cheeks!
So, maybe you didn’t know you were a good lateral mover, or got as excited as I did when you caught the dead ball with your glute, but I know, and I’m excited enough for both of us.
And I’m going to continue us to let you know how awesome you are (in my own way).
Fist pumps for everyone who needs to listen to me on a daily basis!
Annette Fiscelli is the co-owner of On Your Mark Coaching and Training.